Marriage - a legal contract between people that creates kinship.
- The day when one says to the other about being a constant friend, a faithful partner and a love from that day forward.
- The day when one offers the other his/ her solemn vow to be a faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow.
- The day when one promises to love unconditionally, to support each other in their goals, to honor and respect, to laugh and cry with, and to cherish each other for as long as they both shall live.
I fought for what I wanted, and till this very day, I am still fighting to get what I want. Marriage has taught me a lot about life. I grew up seeing couples complaining about who does more and who does less in their marriage, and I swear, at that point of time, I promised myself never to do that when I have my own little family. But somehow, humans like me, are weak and the tendency to compare never seem to go away. I used to brag about how much I have done and how lucky he was to get things the easy way out. What happened to the definition of "through thick and thin together?" I never fail to think how unfair this was to me. But honestly, thinking this way didn't help at all. In fact, it put a strain onto the what was once a happy and carefree relationship.
As time pass, I realised that I have gotten it all wrong! Totally wrong! Because in a marriage, it shouldn't be that way. It doesn't matter who does more! Mainly because, at the end of the day, it is the small family that we built is what that matters. So our focus should be on this small family, not on who contributes more or less.
I thank that special someone who enlightened me when she shared this with me in June last year "You are together because you love each other. So when there is a conflict, always remember that you are not out to harm one another. It is just a difference of views between a couple, and one must learn to compromise! There also shouldn't be any mention of the big D-word in heated disagreement, because it only hurts each other, not solve anything! When one signs on the DOTTED line, they choose to walk this path together. No doubts and no insecurity in the relationship. Just complete trust!"
I learnt all this the hard way... To treasure what I already have instead of always comparing, complaining and taking things for granted.
To my dearest beloved hubby, happy wedding anniversary! I believe things happen for a reason, be it good or bad. Whatever issues that may arise in the future, I know that we are both prepared to fight it together. I ♥ U!
